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My only regrets in life: when I failed to trust myself, and trusted the words of others (above myself).

You are the supreme authority of yourself

Why don’t we trust ourselves? Because we haven’t been trained to trust ourselves. For most of us, our upbringing consisted of listening to authority figures, and being punished if we disobeyed. Based on your gender, race, nationality, ethnicity, or upbringing — this is always different. But the optimistic thought is this:

No matter what your upbringing was, you can CHANGE your present moment/behavior/thinking, and also FUTURE behavior/thinking/behavior.

Why is it so scary, difficult, or hard to trust in yourself?

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I think it comes down to training. You must train yourself to trust in yourself. And nobody can do this but you.

I generally like to ask feedback, critique, or suggestions from others. But I’m starting to wonder:

Whenever I ask people for feedback, critique, judgement, or their thoughts– is it because I have some inner insecurity about myself?

Which makes me wonder:

Perhaps moving forward in my life, I will STOP asking for feedback, suggestions, critiques, or comments, and simply follow my own gut, trust in myself, and be CULPABLE for all my failures (and my successes).

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Do we just want to blame someone in-case we fail?


My belief:

When we ask others for their feedback or thoughts, perhaps we are simply trying to assign blame to someone else in-case we fail.

I think sometimes I also ask others who I admire for their feedback and suggestions, and also as a way to pump up their ego (and get the other person to like me more). But perhaps the more genuine thing to do is to simply ruthlessly self-experiment with myself, and claim all of my losses and wins.

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New life experiment/goal

My new goal for this year:

Ruthlessly trust in myself, and becoming 100% liable for everything I do.

This means:

  1. Don’t assign blame to anyone else but myself
  2. Don’t exhibit fear to myself
  3. Don’t be afraid of failing in front of others, but also don’t be too eager to succeed in front of others.

A more selfish and self-focused life. Concentrate in yourself.


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