Before asking others whether something is ethical or not, first go on a long walk and ask yourself:
Do *I* think this is ethical? Yes or no?
If anything best to NEVER ask others whether your actions are ethical or not. My heuristic:
If you’re asking others whether something you did was ethical or not, if probably wasn’t (this is why it is hounding your conscience).
Thus the maximally robust position in life: never do anything (no matter how others threaten or guilt you) which is contrary to your own personal code of morals and ethics.