Short answer: no — it’s the opposite. 🔥

Complimenting someone is ethical, human, pro-social, and powerful when it’s sincere. Here’s the clean breakdown: The only time compliments get weird is when they’re: That’s not a compliment — that’s a tactic. A true compliment is simple: “I see something good. I say it. End of story.” That’s not unethical. That’s clean signal, clean energy, […]

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Usually, no—complimenting someone is not unethical. In most situations it’s actually a small, pro-social act: it can boost confidence, strengthen relationships, and make the world feel a little less cold.

That said, a compliment can become unethical depending on intent, context, power dynamics, and impact. When compliments are solidly ethical Compliments are generally ethical when they’re: Examples: When compliments can become unethical Here are the main “uh-oh” zones: 1) Manipulation disguised as kindness If the compliment is being used to control someone—get compliance, extract favors, […]

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The Ethics of Complimenting Others in Different Contexts

Introduction Compliments are generally seen as positive – they express praise, appreciation, or admiration for someone. However, whether giving a compliment is ethical can depend greatly on context and intent. A well-timed, sincere compliment can build goodwill and make someone feel valued, whereas an ill-considered or insincere remark can cause discomfort or even cross ethical […]

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Beauty

So a big thought on my mind as of late is about beauty.  First, this very unique idea… The idea that, beautiful people have beautiful ethics? And also… Beautiful people are happy? And also, happy people are beautiful?

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