Social Skills - ERIC KIM

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Why?

Something I believe deeply in is the future for social skills. Why? First and foremost, the prime consideration for humans is social. Without having other embodied humans around us, nothing is worth it.

This is where modern day capitalism and consumerism is weird; rather than putting the emphasis on other human beings, it puts the emphasis instead on objects, nonhuman things. For example, we become obsessed with watches, cars, clothes, homes, etc. But the ultimate goal is instead, direction maximize our real life face time with other humans.

Even zoom is bad. Why? To communicate with another human being that is not facilitated in the flesh is jarring.

Even something that is interesting in regards to other human beings men and women, when I see them on the screen, versus in the flesh. Why in the flesh you could see subtle things like height. Height matters.

For example, you could see pretty girls on Instagram or social media, or showing off their body parts. Yet, if you see them in real life, and they are very short and small, like 5 feet tall, or 4 foot 11, it is different. Even Aristotle once said, ”Is there such thing as a beautiful small woman?” Or for men,

Short men are never a threat.

For example, I am very fortunate that I am quite tall, around 5 foot 11 if I exaggerate. Realistically I’m more 5 foot 10, maybe 5 foot 10 1/2. But I always like to round up. I think in Korea I’m 180 centimeters, the golden standard.

At the gym, I don’t really care if anyone is more buff or muscular than me, as long as I am taller than them, I still feel dominant.

Why does height matter?

Something that I have realized is there is a link and a connection between height and social class. Richer and more affluent people, higher class people tend to be taller. More poor working class people, or recent migrants are immigrants tend to be short.

Why is this? My theory:

In the past, there was an evolutionary benefit to height.

For example, not always but often times taller men tend to be bigger and stronger. Therefore, a woman would find a tall and strong man as more powerful and strong and beneficial.

Even for men, a trend that I see is that shorter men, or even medium sized men like the idea of marrying and having children with really really tall supermodels.

Therefore my theory:

A lot of short men tend to have a lot of money, and have the ability to attract really really tall super model women, and therefore their children and future generations of children keep getting taller and taller.

How to stand taller

You cannot change your height, but, you can change your posture. To stand upright, tall, shoulders back, chest up, chin up.

For example, even a lot of taller guys who are very very tall I see hunched over, with very poor posture. This looks very unattractive.

I also have another theory is that naturally, when your testosterone and muscle mass is high, and your body fat percentage low, your body will actually naturally assume a more dominant, upright posture.

Even another funny thing that I say is in regards to ego; when I see my testosterone insanely high, when I’m about to hype myself up before a one rep max, let’s see my 940 pound atlas lift, and my half legging compression short short tights are rolled all the way up, exposing my bare demigod thighs, and also my compression shirt is rolled up showing off my midsection and my nipples, and I am in the zone, other men around me… I see their egos deflating. When your testosterone and ego is high, and other men witness this, maybe it is a zero sum thing in which their ego also deflates.

Actually, maybe this is false. Instead, maybe only insecure men find me as a threat to their own masculinity. My new friend at the gym Taylor, insanely buff dude, always congratulates me after a successfully heavy lift. Theory:

If you are a self-confident man, and you witness great feats of strength from other men, you will always congratulate them, rather than feeling small.

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Some things you could do:

Lock your headphones, AirPods, AirPods pros in a drawer, and don’t use them anymore. Instead, if you’re going to listen to music, just blast it on your iPhone at max volume, or play it off a bluetooth speaker. At the gym, go “raw dog” as my friend Kevin Hoang says. If you go to the gym without headphones or music on, the upside is you actually have the chance to talk to people! The gymnasium, the gym as a new social space to interact with other human beings.
Practice hypelifting: The basic idea is that before you do a new one rep max, allow yourself to scream, shout, go primal, slap yourself in the face and legs, choke up, and just fucking lift it!
Sign up for a yoga membership at a local yoga studio, whether it be CorePower or ra yoga. Chat with the person next to you, or when you’re in the locker room talk with other people there too. Think of going to a yoga studio as a social experience. Not “working out“
Sign up for a local gym membership, which has a sauna. Make some small talk with other guys in the sauna.
Cancel all of your media streaming services. If you want to socialize, just go to the gym, yoga, or the mall, and try to make small talk with anyone you meet.