On creating a new mould for yourself
There has never been a you before. So why placate to the ideals of others?
Children always ignore others.
Kids have zero interest in placating and pleasing others. The notion that kids try to please others is something which we adults have indoctrinated them with. Thus we as adults need to learn to *unlearn* much of the societal bullshit in our brains. The best learning for us is unlearning.