Just know and remember the other terrible shit that you’ve been through!!!
Thus the irony… he or she who is the most cheerful, unhappy, and optimistic, has typically survived or overcome, or have gone through the worst tragedies?
Therefore, life isn’t about hoping or wishing that you’ve never gone through bad things, or not wishing bad things for others or your kids… But rather to have the courage, mental and physical fortitude to get through the other side stronger? 
the happiest person, as once the most tragic person?