My #1 skill in life? Social skills.
who will be the future leaders and rulers of tomorrow?
My prediction:
The future rulers will be those with the most social skills.
What is a social skill? A social skill is a technique and approach to get others to like you, to trust you, and to “obey” you.
WHO IS TO BLAME FOR ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIOR?
Probably smartphones. Partly parents.
If a parent gives a child an iPad or phone from a young age, and the child becomes addicted to it, the parent is to blame.
Technology isn’t really the culprit. A technology is innocuous in itself. A technology can be used for strengthening or weakening. A technology can be in good/bad depending on the context. It is like fire — fire can be used to cook delicious meat, or it could be used to burn the homes of others.
IT IS NEVER TOO LATE
My optimistic thought:
- it is never too late to develop your social skills.
A social skill is a technique and approach, which can be practiced and learned.
ask lots of questions
To get others to like you, ask more questions to them. Let them talk 90% of the time, and only speak 10% of the time.
the more you allow others to talk, the more they will like you.
Generally, all humans like to talk about themselves.
talk to everyone
Small talk and big talk. Ask deep life questions
- What are your life goals?
- What are your passions in life?
- What’s your life story?
have fun with it!
Talk with people like a child. Don’t censor yourself. Speak your mind, and have fun with people!
ERIC KIM