Maybe a virtuous way we could approach speech is via negativa–> Truth be told, most people are like insanely basic, the best course of action is just don’t open your mouth.
 a lot of people talk about open communication or whatever… But honestly, perhaps it is more virtuous to figure out what NOT to communicate. 
For example, not to communicate pettiness, and actually even in terms of technology… The best technology is via negativa –> the only worthwhile things to install on your phone is pop up and advertising blockers, and also with headphones or whatever… The only useful ones are the noise canceling ones. Actually a very underrated technology is the simple earplug, I like the purple ones on Amazon.
So to prioritize peace quiet and tranquility.
So I suppose, the first thought is with communication or speech or talking with other people… Certainly there is certain banter you do when you’re with men versus women versus mixed groups.  certainly there is a different way you will talk to your childhood friends versus your priest.