{"id":67987,"date":"2017-10-28T10:38:13","date_gmt":"2017-10-28T17:38:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/?p=67987"},"modified":"2017-10-28T10:39:10","modified_gmt":"2017-10-28T17:39:10","slug":"how-to-conquer-regret","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/2017\/10\/28\/how-to-conquer-regret\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Conquer Regret"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"NYC,
NYC, 2017 #cindyproject<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Dear friend,<\/p>\n

If you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve ever felt regret or remorse in life, and that guilt holds you back… here is some advice to help you conquer those emotions and feelings, in order for you to move forward, and continue to do good in your life.<\/p>\n

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1. You made the best decision at the time<\/h2>\n
\"Fort
Fort Lee, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Primo, regretting or feeling remorse after<\/em> you do something won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t change anything. In terms of physics, what you did already happened. You cannot go into a time machine and fix your past \u00e2\u20ac\u0153wrong\u00e2\u20ac\u009d.<\/p>\n

Also, realize when you made your decision to make that action\u00e2\u20ac\u201d you made the best decision based on the information you had.<\/strong> A lot of us feel regret or remorse afterwards because we have the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153hindsight fallacy\u00e2\u20ac\u009d\u00e2\u20ac\u201d of course you are going to find more information after<\/em> you make a decision. It is like thinking…of course I should have predicted that Apple was gonna be a good stock option, I should have invested in it 20 years ago. But, that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s as dumb as wishing you could have jumped in a time machine and \u00e2\u20ac\u0153predicted\u00e2\u20ac\u009d lottery numbers.<\/p>\n

\"NYC,
NYC, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Anyways, nobody is omnipotent and can read the future. We can make conjectures and educated guesses.<\/p>\n

My suggestion:<\/p>\n

\n With decision-making, just know what your maximum loss is. And cap your potential downside or loss. Then take epic risks in life, to live a heroic and exciting life.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

2. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t bite rocks<\/h2>\n
\"Madison,
Madison, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m getting off topic, let me go back to the idea of regret and remorse.<\/p>\n

Apparently the word \u00e2\u20ac\u0153remorse\u00e2\u20ac\u009d comes in Latin which means the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153biting\u00e2\u20ac\u009d feeling you feel after you make a decision.<\/p>\n

\"American
American flag. NYC, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

But one wise thing Nietzsche says is that feeling remorse is like a dog biting a rock. Pointless, and probably not good for your jaws or teeth.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Live a noble and epic life!<\/h2>\n
\"NYC,
NYC, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Trust me, I have a lot of regrets and remorse in my life. I regret things I have said, done, or people I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve hurt or offended. And also, I regret things that I didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t<\/em> do.<\/p>\n

But I follow the Jeff Bezos \u00e2\u20ac\u0153regret minimization framework\u00e2\u20ac\u009d in my life:<\/p>\n

\n I imagine myself 90 years old on my deathbed and ask myself, what regrets do I NOT want to have in my life?\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"Madison,
Madison, 2017 #cindyproject<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Essentially, that means not taking the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153safe\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153normal\u00e2\u20ac\u009d or the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153boring\u00e2\u20ac\u009d path in life. That means taking more fun risks in life, doing cooler shit, and not doing anything that doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t interest me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Or in JAY Z\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s words,<\/p>\n

\n I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d rather die enormous than lie dormant.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

4. Let the stream of life wash away all your regrets and remorse<\/h2>\n
\"Sunset.
Sunset. Fort Lee, New Jersey 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Your life is short. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t let regret or remorse hold you back.<\/p>\n

My suggestion: see your life as a stream. You might have someone pour oil or dirt into your stream of clean crystal clear water. Just let the flow of time and water wash away the impurities… and keep flowing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

BE STRONG,
\nERIC<\/p>\n

PHILOSOPHY<\/a><\/h1>\n
\"ERIC
ERIC KIM x RICOH GR II<\/a> x ERIC KIM STRAP<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Philosophy: love of wisdom.<\/p>\n

Philosophy<\/h2>\n