{"id":631782,"date":"2024-09-13T09:20:58","date_gmt":"2024-09-13T13:20:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/?p=631782"},"modified":"2024-09-13T09:55:33","modified_gmt":"2024-09-13T13:55:33","slug":"just-live-life-according-to-your-own-rules-and-preferences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/2024\/09\/13\/just-live-life-according-to-your-own-rules-and-preferences\/","title":{"rendered":"Just live life according to your own rules and preferences"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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The upside of not using email, social media, reading the news etc.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The other day, just being able to check into this nice beachside hotel, and just randomly reading some promotional material about the hotel, the nearby amenities, activities that offers, tennis and Pickleball courts etc.\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 and realizing:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Wow, my mind is totally clear and empty\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 No concerns about stupid BS from the outside world, etc.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Creating your own ideal life and lifestyle<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

am I the only pragmatic thinker and pragmatist know? Obviously you can craft your own life and lifestyle\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 There is no physical law which prohibits you from doing it\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6! obviously, you cannot just snap your fingers and wish yourself to own 1 million Lamborghinis, bed all the most beautiful babies on the planet, and live in an ultra luxury high-rise condo for the rest of your life. There are some pragmatic things you could do travel,, go off the grid, get rid of your phone and your phone plan, go off to Southeast Asia etc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just try something new<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I think the difficult thing is it is always difficult to adjust, to adapt, to do something new based on a new environment, a new living standard, a new way and mode of living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

example, the way I used to live when I was living in Orange County is different because of the time Cindy just had a post doc which means she was only kind of, so she could spend more time watching Seneca, while I would just work out at the gym for about three 3 1\/2 hours. Now, my time is more limited. Generally, now that Seneca sleeps like a champ, I have the mornings mostly to myself, but it looks like my time to actually work out has been reduced only about 30 minutes or so. As a consequence, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve been working diligently and experimenting diligently in order to effectively lift weights and exercise, given my limited timeframe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dynamics<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

life is not a simple vector equation. Life is like multivariant calculus, and there is so much unity chaos and unpredictability which happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, I think one of the things that people have a hard time adjusting to once they have a kid is it is so random! One night your kid might accidentally wake up at 3 AM because of something, and 90% of the time they sleep like a champ until 9 AM. You cannot really predict these things. This is why when it comes to parenting, having a kid, it seems that carpe diem just take every single day as it comes is a wise approach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why is it that we try to plan our lives?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Growing up, I never planned nothing. I just did whatever I felt like the day off. Also I suppose I was pretty lucky that I grew up, having pretty much more or less 100% freedom, so I can simply do as I please. Obviously I will try my best to self regulate myself\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 It was still my goal and impetus to get straight A\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s in school, get into a good college, etc. But beyond that, I would love hanging out with my friends, going on adventures, playing video games, Sports etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

yeah we modern, we adults\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Why is it that we are trying to squeeze out uncertainty chaos and randomness from our lives? What if instead\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Chaos randomness and uncertainty was a true source of delight in human life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, if I would tell you that with 100% certain to you, 100% of the time, 100% of the same people would always go to the same spot. If that were the case\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Wouldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t suck? Wouldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t be much more every once in a while, there was an insanely beautiful woman who would go there\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 Maybe a 15 out of 10\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 And you are interested in her and she is interested in you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why online dating is like a drug<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Never done online dating, fortunately\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 This is only woman I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve ever had in my life. And I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m grateful for that. But anyways, I think the appeal of online dating is actually precisely the randomness, the chaos, the chance. It is almost like playing the slot machine\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 You don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t know when you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re gonna get three sevens in a row\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 And once you swipe once, you might swipe and lose that person forever. So there is a little bit of FOMO, fear of missing out Enabled on the platform, and also\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 A bit of a serotonin dopamine rush, when you get lucky. Also, maybe there is also a feeling of loss aversion? Like you invest so much time swiping around looking for the perfect match, and when you finally find what you believe to be an insanely beautiful woman after about 10 hours, you don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to let it go?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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