{"id":62865,"date":"2017-08-14T19:58:47","date_gmt":"2017-08-15T02:58:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/?p=62865"},"modified":"2017-08-14T19:58:47","modified_gmt":"2017-08-15T02:58:47","slug":"you-are-not-your-pictures-your-pictures-are-not-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/2017\/08\/14\/you-are-not-your-pictures-your-pictures-are-not-you\/","title":{"rendered":"You Are Not Your Pictures; Your Pictures Are Not You."},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Memento
Memento Mori ARTWEAR by HAPTICLABS<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Dear friend,<\/p>\n

Remember, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153You are not your pictures; your pictures are not you.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

1. Disconnect your ego from your photos<\/h2>\n
\"Scary
Scary ERIC KIM. Shot by a 3 year old kid named Danny. Saigon, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

What this means is this:<\/p>\n

\n You are not your pictures.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If someone doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t like your pictures, it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean they don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t like you.<\/p>\n

Also, if someone doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t like your pictures, it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean that you are a bar person.<\/p>\n

You can be a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153bad photographer\u00e2\u20ac\u009d but a really good person.<\/p>\n

2. Pictures of you are merely a visual representation of you<\/h2>\n
\"Danny
Danny and teeth. Saigon, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

\n Your pictures are not you.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This means, you can look differently \u00e2\u20ac\u0153in real life\u00e2\u20ac\u009d, when compared to pictures of you.<\/p>\n

For example, if someone shot a fisheye, super wide-angle lens photo of you, that obviously won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t look like you in real life. Or if someone shot a super low angle photo of you, with a wide-angle lens, it would distort your face.<\/p>\n

You can have \u00e2\u20ac\u0153unflattering\u00e2\u20ac\u009d pictures of you. But you obviously look better in real life, than the picture of you.<\/p>\n

\"Selfie
Selfie kiss. Saigon, 2017<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Conversely, anyone with a Tinder account knows that we use MORE FLATTERING pictures of us, when trying to secure a date. Sociologists call this \u00e2\u20ac\u0153impression management\u00e2\u20ac\u009d\u00e2\u20ac\u201d we try to control the impressions others will have of us, one superficial one being\u00ef\u00bc\u0161 trying to control the pictures of us which exist online, and in our profiles.<\/p>\n

Practical takeaways\u00ef\u00bc\u0161<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t care if people take \u00e2\u20ac\u0153unflattering\u00e2\u20ac\u009d photos of you. Obviously you look better in real life. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t out-source your self ego to your selfie pictures, and don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t care whether you look \u00e2\u20ac\u0153good\u00e2\u20ac\u009d in pictures or not.<\/li>\n
  2. In real life, wear clothes and style yourself according to your own taste. Disregard trends. Make your own style trend.<\/li>\n
  3. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t crowdsource your self-esteem on Instagram or Facebook or any social network. The number of likes you get on a picture (either shot by you, or a picture of<\/em> you) doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t value its worth. Rather, the social media algorithms determine how many of your friends and followers will see your post, so the \u00e2\u20ac\u0153like\u00e2\u20ac\u009d number is quite arbitrary and random.<\/li>\n
  4. Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t take your photography personally\u00ef\u00bc\u0161 Someone can say your photos suck, or not like your photos… yet still like you as a human being. My tip\u00ef\u00bc\u0161Disconnect your ego from your pictures by calling them \u00e2\u20ac\u0153the<\/em>\u00e2\u20ac\u009d pictures rather than \u00e2\u20ac\u0153my<\/em>\u00e2\u20ac\u009d pictures.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Ultimately, you are your own judge and arbiter of your self-image, and of your artistic pictures.<\/p>\n

    \"\"
    Cindy.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

    Now ignore the haters, wave goodbye to them and say, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153See you later!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

    \"Hands.
    Hands. New Orleans.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

    Smile and make more pictures! And always HONOR THY SELFIE<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    Share your best pictures on ERIC KIM FORUM<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    \"MEMENTO
    ERIC KIM w\/ MEMENTO MORI ARTWEAR by HAPTICLABS<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

    BE STRONG,
    \nERIC<\/p>\n

    START HERE ><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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