{"id":53112,"date":"2017-06-18T22:29:45","date_gmt":"2017-06-19T05:29:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/?p=53112"},"modified":"2017-06-18T22:31:04","modified_gmt":"2017-06-19T05:31:04","slug":"how-to-conquer-self-doubt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/2017\/06\/18\/how-to-conquer-self-doubt\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Conquer Self-Doubt"},"content":{"rendered":"

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In the past, I doubted myself a lot. I always asked others for their opinions, and never asked myself of my own opinion.<\/p>\n

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Today, I’m one of the most self-realized people I know. Not because I’m smart. I’m probably lower than average intelligence. Not because I’m lucky– I was born into poverty. Not because I’m clever, I just work hard.<\/p>\n

Not only that, but I’m more self confident, because I came from a place of self-doubt, and I know that self-doubt can be conquered.<\/p>\n

Why I’m so cocky.<\/h2>\n

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I’ve always grown up cocky. Why? I had a good mom. She taught me,<\/p>\n

\n Eric, you can be anything you want to be, as long as you work hard enough.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

My mom never doubted me. Thanks mom.<\/p>\n

I think to not doubt yourself has to do with having a good upbringing. To have parents that believe in you is a plus.<\/p>\n

Yet, that ain’t all.<\/p>\n

Secondly, it is to have the faith that you can control, shape, and change your fate. For me, I don’t believe in pre-destination. I’m a Catholic at heart, with a drive of hustle and hunger that I don’t know alone else who has, besides maybe Jay-Z, Kendrick Lamar, and Kanye West.<\/p>\n

You can control your fate.<\/h2>\n

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I’m like Steve Jobs with his \u00e2\u20ac\u0153reality distortion field\u00e2\u20ac\u009d– I feel like I can change reality with my mind.<\/p>\n

Now I’m not hallucinating. I don’t take drugs. I’ve only smoked weed four times in my life, never dropped acid, mushrooms, and nowadays I don’t drink alcohol anymore.<\/p>\n

Instead, I believe that you can change your life and fate with enough hard work, hustle, and of course– self-confidence.<\/p>\n

Some ideas:<\/p>\n

1. Stop caring what others think of you<\/h2>\n

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You should care most about what you think of you.<\/p>\n

Don’t care what others think of you.<\/p>\n

So when you wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself:<\/p>\n

\n Do I like who I am, and what I do? Am I proud of myself?\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I don’t know about you, but I’m fucking proud of myself. I came from a modest background, where my mom hustled 6 days a week, working menial minimum wage jobs, to support my sister and me. I grew up with a father who gambled away the rent money. My dad gambled away $3,000 I gave him when I was 16 years old, thinking that he was going to invest it in a business.<\/p>\n

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I’m fucking proud that I hustled my ass off. I’m proud that I’m an Eagle scout, that I worked part time while a full time student at UCLA, and I took out loans to pay for college. I’m proud that I now (thanks Cindy) earn over $200,000+ USD a year — because I had the confidence to charge more money for workshops, and finally start valuing myself and not selling myself cheap.<\/p>\n

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Above all, I’m glad that I seek to help and empower others. I can care less about what others think of me, because I think highly of myself, and my work ethic and hustle.<\/p>\n

To sum up, I’m proud of myself because I work hard.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Lose body fat<\/h2>\n

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I’m also proud of myself that I have a 6-pack. Since my wedding, I’ve lost 15 pounds of fat. How? Not eating breakfast or lunch anymore– abstaining from sugar, carbs, and alcohol.<\/p>\n

Also I’m proud I can deadlift 405 pounds at a body weight of 145 pounds. I’m probably stronger in my deadlift than Bruce Lee.<\/p>\n

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Obviously this is just me.<\/p>\n

But to be honest, I think everyone would have more self-confidence if they lost body fat, and built physical strength.<\/p>\n

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Cindy has built strength doing yoga push-ups, and one legged squats. Me too.<\/p>\n

Easy way to lose body fat: stop drinking beer, eating bread, pasta, sugar, sweets, cookies, soda, and simple carbs.<\/p>\n

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Instead, eat more fatty meats, eggs, and veggies.<\/p>\n

3. Write your own obituary.<\/h2>\n

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Imagine that you’re gonna die at age 80. What would you want on your tomb stone?<\/p>\n

For me, I’d like something like:<\/p>\n

\n Here lies Eric Kim. He devoted his life to promoting generosity, open-source information to empower others. His legacy of helping others will live on.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

What would it be for you?<\/p>\n

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BE STRONG,
\nERIC<\/p>\n

CONQUER YOUR FEARS AND MEET NEW PEERS ><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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