How does one become a good role model? Simple: focus on the notion of an \u00e2\u20ac\u0153anti role model\u00e2\u20ac\u0153.<\/p>\n
The general gist is this: strive to be the opposite of bad attributes you see in others.<\/p>\n
For example, rather than thinking of how to become a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153good\u00e2\u20ac\u009d parent, think about how to not<\/em> be a bad parent. Or in another words, strive to be the opposite of bad parenting.<\/p>\n In my personal example, I probably had the worst father figure growing up. Thus in order to become a good father figure, I just strove to be the exact opposite of what my father was. So in other words, as long as I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m the opposite of my father, I will become a great father.<\/p>\n And the interesting irony is this: sometimes it is the bad role models which help you become a more positive person. In fact, I found more motivation to not become my father then emulating \u00e2\u20ac\u0153good\u00e2\u20ac\u009d role models.<\/p>\n To take this analogy further, one should not helicopter parent the children. In fact, it is pain suffering and injustice which perhaps gives children a stronger moral compass. Even at a early age, I knew the injustice that my father did towards my mother. And I knew that one day when I had a wife, I would do the exact opposite of what my father was to my mother. So when I think of how my father used to curse at my mom, physically assault my mom, and mentally destroy her, I strive to become the zen-stoic husband and father that I am today.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" How does one become a good role model? Simple: focus on the notion of an \u00e2\u20ac\u0153anti role model\u00e2\u20ac\u0153. The general gist is this: strive to be the opposite of bad attributes you see in others. For example, rather than thinking of how to become a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153good\u00e2\u20ac\u009d parent, think about how to not be a bad […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":318815,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[17],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-318813","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-posts"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/6BDCA22C-8C6C-4B67-9CFE-3E2079D0978D.jpeg?fit=1125%2C1688&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/318813","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=318813"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/318813\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":318828,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/318813\/revisions\/318828"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/318815"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=318813"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=318813"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=318813"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}