{"id":212952,"date":"2020-02-27T09:08:27","date_gmt":"2020-02-27T17:08:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/?p=212952"},"modified":"2020-02-27T10:09:01","modified_gmt":"2020-02-27T18:09:01","slug":"obey-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/2020\/02\/27\/obey-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"OBEY YOURSELF"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Don&#8217;t let others lord over you; lord over yourself!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-file\"><a href=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/OBEY-YOURSELF.pdf\">PDF TEXT: OBEY YOURSELF<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/OBEY-YOURSELF.pdf\" class=\"wp-block-file__button\" download>Download<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-video wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-videopress\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"VideoPress Video Player\" aria-label='VideoPress Video Player' width='500' height='281' src='https:\/\/videopress.com\/embed\/R7T5mAQ5?preloadContent=metadata&amp;hd=0&amp;cover=1' frameborder='0' allowfullscreen allow='clipboard-write'><\/iframe><script src='https:\/\/v0.wordpress.com\/js\/next\/videopress-iframe.js?m=1674852142'><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-youtube wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"OBEY YOURSELF\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/F5LW3uLceTM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Anti-resentment in life<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1710\" data-attachment-id=\"212955\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/selfie-lumix-00002-5\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1710\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;1.4&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;DC-G9&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1582823830&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;12&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;200&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.008&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"selfie lumix 00002\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?resize=2560%2C1710&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"down\" class=\"wp-image-212955\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?w=2560&amp;ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C513&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C1026&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?resize=2048%2C1368&amp;ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?resize=720%2C481&amp;ssl=1 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>What is the worst? When we don&#8217;t feel like we have control over our own lives, or over ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I believe the best way to extract the maximum in life is to NOT be put into a position in which you resent others or reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thus, we need to position ourselves and design our life in order for us to <strong>NOT resent others, and certainly not to resent ourselves<\/strong> (or resent reality).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How not to resent<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1710\" data-attachment-id=\"212957\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/selfie-lumix-00004-4\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1710\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;1.4&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;DC-G9&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1582823831&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;12&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;200&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.008&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"selfie lumix 00004\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?resize=2560%2C1710&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-212957\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?w=2560&amp;ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C513&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C1026&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?resize=2048%2C1368&amp;ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00004-3-scaled.jpeg?resize=720%2C481&amp;ssl=1 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Resentment is revenge. Resentment is a hidden dagger to have revenge on others, reality, or perhaps even yourself. We resent when we don&#8217;t have power to change things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do you respect yourself?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1710\" data-attachment-id=\"212924\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/p1429403\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1710\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;3.2&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;DC-G9&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1582817098&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;12&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;200&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.0015625&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"P1429403\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?resize=2560%2C1710&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"selfie \" class=\"wp-image-212924\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?w=2560&amp;ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C513&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C1026&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?resize=2048%2C1368&amp;ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429403-scaled.jpeg?resize=720%2C481&amp;ssl=1 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>How high do you put your needs? <em>Do you put your own needs ABOVE others, or BELOW others?<\/em> Perhaps this is the guide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you put your own personal needs above others, you will thrive, and NOT be resentful in life. If you put your personal needs BELOW others, you will end up eventually feeling a hidden resentment towards those who you are &#8216;helping&#8217;, because others will never be fully or maximally grateful to your help towards them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The goal<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1710\" data-attachment-id=\"212841\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/p1429324-self\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1710\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;1.4&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;DC-G9&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1582777584&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;12&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;500&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.008&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"P1429324 self\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1710&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?resize=2560%2C1710&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"selfie\" class=\"wp-image-212841\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?w=2560&amp;ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?resize=768%2C513&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?resize=1536%2C1026&amp;ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?resize=2048%2C1368&amp;ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1429324-self-scaled.jpg?resize=720%2C481&amp;ssl=1 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The ultimate goal:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Self-development of yourself to your personal maximum (and beyond)<\/li><li>Ability to be focused and self-centered on yourself with a good conscience.<\/li><li>Putting your own needs, wants, and desires ABOVE others, because you recognize that you are lofty and high.<\/li><li>Don&#8217;t allow others to bully you into feeling guilty. Stoic hardness and ignoring others.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;re strong enough!<br>\nERIC KIM <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Don&#8217;t let others lord over you; lord over yourself!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":212955,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-212952","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-posts"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/selfie-lumix-00002-4-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1710&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/212952","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=212952"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/212952\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":212968,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/212952\/revisions\/212968"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/212955"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=212952"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=212952"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=212952"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}