When should we ask for feedback? When shouldn’t we ask for feedback?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why<\/em> do we ask for feedback, towards what end?<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nVIDEO<\/h2>\n\n\n\n\n<\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-video wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-videopress\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"VideoPress Video Player\" aria-label='VideoPress Video Player' width='1180' height='664' src='https:\/\/videopress.com\/embed\/VrFlHzyL?preloadContent=metadata&hd=0&cover=1' frameborder='0' allowfullscreen allow='clipboard-write'><\/iframe><script src='https:\/\/v0.wordpress.com\/js\/next\/videopress-iframe.js?m=1770107250'><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">AUDIO<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Why-Ask-for-Feedback.mp3\"><\/audio><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"https:\/\/anchor.fm\/erickim\/episodes\/Why-Feedback-eart1p\">Podcast<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Are you a newbie?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignfull size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1180\" height=\"787\" data-attachment-id=\"210846\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/r0062637\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1707\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{"aperture":"2.8","credit":"","camera":"RICOH GR III","caption":"","created_timestamp":"1581706145","copyright":"ERIC KIM","focal_length":"18.3","iso":"1250","shutter_speed":"0.016666666666667","title":"","orientation":"0"}\" data-image-title=\"R0062637\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?resize=1180%2C787&ssl=1\" alt=\"fist\" class=\"wp-image-210846\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?w=2560&ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C512&ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C1024&ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?resize=2048%2C1365&ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?resize=720%2C480&ssl=1 720w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062637-scaled.jpeg?w=2360&ssl=1 2360w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1180px) 100vw, 1180px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">First of all, my psychological thought:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>When we ask for feedback, we are signaling that we lack self-confidence in ourselves.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When we ask for feedback, we acknowledge that the other person is smarter than us, or we perceive them as more knowledgeable or powerful than us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do we not want to take responsibility for ourselves and actions?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignfull size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1180\" height=\"787\" data-attachment-id=\"210847\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/r0062639\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1707\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{"aperture":"2.8","credit":"","camera":"RICOH GR III","caption":"","created_timestamp":"1581706152","copyright":"ERIC KIM","focal_length":"18.3","iso":"1250","shutter_speed":"0.0125","title":"","orientation":"0"}\" data-image-title=\"R0062639\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?resize=1180%2C787&ssl=1\" alt=\"fist\" class=\"wp-image-210847\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?w=2560&ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?resize=768%2C512&ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?resize=1536%2C1024&ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?resize=2048%2C1365&ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?resize=720%2C480&ssl=1 720w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/R0062639-scaled.jpeg?w=2360&ssl=1 2360w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1180px) 100vw, 1180px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Another thought:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>When we ask others for feedback, we want someone to blame (if we end up screwing up or failing).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps this is why companies hire consultants:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>If a company institutes a new policy, and the policy is bad, they are able to transfer liability to the consultant (easy to blame the consultant). <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kind of like scapegoating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How much faith do you have in yourself?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignfull size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1180\" height=\"787\" data-attachment-id=\"210863\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/p1427433-selfie\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1707\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{"aperture":"5","credit":"","camera":"DC-G9","caption":"","created_timestamp":"1581825665","copyright":"","focal_length":"12","iso":"200","shutter_speed":"0.00076923076923077","title":"","orientation":"1"}\" data-image-title=\"P1427433 selfie\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=1180%2C787&ssl=1\" alt=\"selfie \" class=\"wp-image-210863\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?w=2560&ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=768%2C512&ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=1536%2C1024&ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=2048%2C1365&ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=720%2C480&ssl=1 720w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427433-selfie-scaled.jpg?w=2360&ssl=1 2360w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1180px) 100vw, 1180px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Consider a life in which you never asked for feedback. Can you still live a great life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yes! Also — one of the benefits of NOT asking for help or feedback:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>More interesting and unique self-experimentation (innovation).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For example, I mostly ignored everything on the internet about powerlifting. I just do heavy singles and attempt new PR’s (usually once a week). It is against all conventional wisdom in powerlifting, but it seems to have been working for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Another thing — intermittent fasting during the day, and not breaking my fast until later the day (after working out). I also have done all my powerlifting in a fasted state for almost the last 5 years, which is also seen as a “no-no” (we are indoctrinated with the notion that you must eat something <em>BEFORE<\/em> working out, but this is not true).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So perhaps <strong>the benefit of NOT asking others for feedback is that you are more likely to discover NEW TRUTHS, which are contrary to conventional wisdom<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">When is it useful to ask for feedback?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-video\"><video height=\"720\" style=\"aspect-ratio: 1280 \/ 720;\" width=\"1280\" autoplay controls loop muted src=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/ARS-Beta-v2-Promo-Video.mp4\"><\/video><figcaption><a href=\"http:\/\/arsbeta.com\">arsbeta.com<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you need new ideas, and a novel perspective. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For example in photography, I wanted to know how to improve! I felt like I hit a wall in terms of self-improvement, and in order to take it to the NEXT LEVEL, I wanted to elicit the feedback from others. Much of this inspiration is what fueled <a href=\"https:\/\/arsbeta.com\">arsbeta.com<\/a> — the desire to ‘crowd-source’ the ‘wisdom of the crowds’ to empower photographers from all around the planet. Essentially, <strong>creating a platform which I wish I had access to when I started photography<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Conclusion<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignfull size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1180\" height=\"787\" data-attachment-id=\"210867\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/p1427447-selfie\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"2560,1707\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"{"aperture":"4.5","credit":"","camera":"DC-G9","caption":"","created_timestamp":"1581825693","copyright":"","focal_length":"12","iso":"200","shutter_speed":"0.00076923076923077","title":"","orientation":"1"}\" data-image-title=\"P1427447 selfie\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1707&ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=1180%2C787&ssl=1\" alt=\"selfie \" class=\"wp-image-210867\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?w=2560&ssl=1 2560w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=768%2C512&ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=1536%2C1024&ssl=1 1536w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=2048%2C1365&ssl=1 2048w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?resize=720%2C480&ssl=1 720w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/P1427447-selfie-scaled.jpg?w=2360&ssl=1 2360w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1180px) 100vw, 1180px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You don’t need to ask for feedback in order to improve.<\/li><li>Don’t ask for feedback if you just are looking for someone to blame if you fail.<\/li><li>Ask for “tips” (suggestions) from others, but ultimately you decide whether to obey their feedback\/ideas or not. You choose.<\/li><li><strong>If you feel like you’re stuck in your growth, hit a plateau, and need an outside perspective, ask for feedback, suggestions, and help!<\/strong><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">GROW ON!<br>\nERIC<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When should we ask for feedback? When shouldn’t we ask for feedback? 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