{"id":124829,"date":"2019-01-09T21:30:15","date_gmt":"2019-01-10T05:30:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/?p=124829"},"modified":"2019-01-09T21:30:32","modified_gmt":"2019-01-10T05:30:32","slug":"dont-ask-for-permission","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/erickimphotography.com\/blog\/2019\/01\/09\/dont-ask-for-permission\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Ask for Permission"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

If you want to become the most epic entrepreneur<\/a> or you in life, don’t ask for permission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Why do we think we must ask for permission?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We have been trained to ask for permission before doing anything.<\/p><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Consider how you were raised. Most likely you had to ask for permission before doing anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course this carries over when be become adults.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider– you have to ask for permission from your boss before taking time off work. You have to ask for permission from your significant other before purchasing something for yourself. You have to ask for permission before leaving the house.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We become so accustomed to asking for permission that it paralyzes us. That means if we don’t have anyone to ask for permission in order<\/em> to do something, we don’t even attempt it at all.
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For example, if you want to start your own business<\/a> or become an entrepreneur<\/a>, you don’t need permission from anyone else before attempting to do so. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But why do we still ask for permission?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Permission to blame<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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My theory of why we want to ask for permission before doing something:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In case we fail or ‘get in trouble’, we have someone to blame.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

And why do we want someone to blame?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because we don’t have the spine to take responsibility for ourselves, our own life; or perhaps because we lack self-confidence<\/a> in ourselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Is it ever good to ask for permission?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When you’re asking for permission– what are you really doing? Are you informing someone of a decision you’ve going to make, which of you’ve already decided in your head? Or when you are asking for permission, are you seeking a moral or ethical “OK” from the other person? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Latin word for permission comes from “permitto<\/a>” (sounds like ‘permit’) which means, give up, leave, surrender, allow, suffer, grant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It seems in modern life, when we are asking for permission, what we really want is someone to grant us the freedom to do something. But why do we need someone to grant us the freedom to do something? Do we lack that freedom, and thus are we dependent on that person to permit us from doing something?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Fear of getting “in trouble”<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When we ask for permission from someone to do something, generally we are saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do I have your consent to do this thing, in order for you not to get angry at me, or attack\/harm me?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

For example in street photography, when you ask someone for permission<\/a> to make a portrait of them (street portrait<\/a>), you’re saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you give me your consent to make a portrait of you, and you promise not to get angry at me?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Thus we are trying to mitigate others’ anger towards us. We are afraid the other person might attack us (physically, verbally, mentally).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thus inherent in asking for permission is fear of harm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We ask for permission in order not to get harmed as a consequence of our actions<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Asking for permission as a form of announcing what you’re going to do<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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This is what I realized with my persuasion skills in street photography (when asking for permission for a street portrait<\/a>) is this: it seems that I’m asking for permission to shoot a portrait of them, but in reality– I am informing<\/em> them that I am going to make a portrait of them out of courtesy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n