Something I have discovered and uncovered, in my more advanced years:

People who seem to have ongoing traumas, ongoing difficulties, ongoing divorces, break ups, relationship mishaps etc., maybe the truces at the end of the day… They are the problem?

Not only that, but, it also seems that perhaps, it is precisely the good people who are the problem people. The people who have good souls, good intentions or whatever… Ultimately they are the ones?