My friend JOSH WHITE started a project photographing women — and it gave me the opportunity to question why I photograph Cindy.
I started CINDYPROJECT to document my life journey with Cindy, and also for me to better appreciate Cindy.
It is easy for me to take Cindy for granted. We still argue, get into scuffles. I often argue over petty shit.
But —my friend Josh taught me,
Photographing your loved ones is more important than photographing strangers.
When I got married, I photographed my own wedding.
Photographing Cindy helps slow down time. It makes me consider,
My time on earth with Cindy is limited. Let me enjoy every moment.
Your life partner is the best person to photograph. You can photograph them at home, at the restaurant, or whenever. It is the best form of every day photography — personal photos of your loved ones.
Photograph your life partner while they are working, at home, or in the living room. Always have your camera handy.
When you go out together always bring your camera, and keep it around your neck or wrist. Shoot a lot.
Ask your life partner to pose for you, when you see an interesting scene or background.
But what if your life partner doesn’t like being photographed?
First of all, ask them:
Why don’t you like being photographed?
For Cindy, it was initially that she had no control over her image.
So now the rule is:
Before I post pictures, I show them to Cindy. If she doesn’t like a picture, she tells me not to post it.
I like this — because the photo making process of Cindy becomes collaborative. I’m giving her power, control, and autonomy over her image.
Not only that, but Cindy becomes a collaborative partner. She poses for the camera. She knows what her good angle is. She also helps me choose the best pictures of her.
Taking photos of Cindy is like dancing. Sometimes she takes the lead, other times I take the lead. We try hard to not step on each other’s toes.
Your love for your life partner is more important than making good pictures of them.
Don’t treat your life partner as just a photo object. They are the love of your life — treat them with love, compassion, and treat them like a living breathing human being.
Do you let your partner photograph you?
Another idea, empower your life partner to photograph yourself.
You put the power in their hands.
Don’t do unto your life partner, what you wouldn’t want them to do unto you.
In other words, if you want to photograph your life partner, let them also photograph you.
Some pictures Cindy has shot of me:
Learn more: How to start your own Cindy project >